This is a post about divorce btw, a typical subject that has become a social staple. And the sad thing it's contagious, no for real, if a married person talks to a divorcee then they pick apart their own marriage and that leads to....wait for it...divorce. It's a quick way out for some that haven't been single or want to be single again, pay for a lawyer and viola you're single. But sometimes it's not mutual so you have one person left holding the proverbial bag. So my advice....let go of the bag.
You have nothing left to do, if someone is not willing to get to know you and love you for your faults let them go through life searching for traits in others they couldn't see in you. I am not saying wish ill will on anyone, but...don't drink lighter fluid either.
Finding peace in hindsight is not easy. Remember the good times but also the bad. Now this is sounding like a self help e.harmonious crap...nope.
I am also not saying hate what you were, love who you are. I don't believe in either one. Someone once told me to be civil and indifferent. That is my advice to anyone reading this...don't carry a torch you will burn yourself eventually. Pain is not fun, sometimes a necessity but still not fun.
Very well-stated. My theory has always been that people come into our lives for a reason; to get us to the point where we eventually need to be. Although my divorce threw me for a loop to find out that the guy I had been with for 10 years was running around with a floozy from hell, with sadly no redeeming qualities, I bear him no ill will. All I ever ask for is honesty -- we're way tougher than people may think. It's not an easy thing to go through when you're going through it, but it gets better (and yeah, I know you're not a gay teen in need of outreach ;)). Best thing you can do for yourself is not dwell on the could have beens, just take it easy, don't rush into anything and remember your friends love you regardless (otherwise they would have fraggin' killed you by now, fanboy!;)) Don'tcha just love the advice of a woman scorned? ;)
ReplyDeleteTo quote AE: 'Memories may last for years, but names are just for souvenirs...'